Radio Interview Transcript


 

ANNOUNCER:  Welcome to the Wedding Details Radio brought to you by WeddingDetails.com. Now here’s your host, Damien Allen.  DAMIEN: Good morning and welcome to Wedding Details Radio. My name is Damien Allen, and joining me on the phone today is Lois Pearce. Good morning and welcome to the program, Lois.
 
LOIS: Good morning.
 
DAMIEN: Today we are going to be talking about Beginning a Timeline and Budget and many couples are either just engaged or will be engaged soon.  What are the first things to consider as soon as a couple is engaged, Lois?
LOIS: One of the first things I feel is to establish the budget. It sets the parameters for all the discussions that are going to be held up into and including the honeymoon.
DAMIEN: What would be considered a traditional wedding and an average wedding budget?
LOIS: A traditional wedding is one where it’s usually held in a church or a synagogue or it could be held at a reception site and everything happen all in one. The bride and her family take most of the cost of the wedding and an average budget is about $20,400 and that really depends more…I would say that that is more metro areas.
DAMIEN: Who should be involved in the conversation of establishing the wedding budget and why, Lois?
LOIS: It may sound very simplistic, but everyone who is contributing to the finance of the wedding. Certainly the bride, the groom, their parents if their parents are assisting in financing the cost of the wedding and the conversation itself is really to establish, again, some parameters so that if certain areas of the wedding budget are being financed by, let’s say the groom’s parents are going to cover what may be their traditional cost of the brides flowers and perhaps the reception beverages, that’s established. If the couple is going to cover the cost, then that’s established. And hypothetically using the $20,000 figure, if the bride and groom were paying for the cost of this wedding themselves, then they may decide ok, I can contribute $10,000 and the other can contribute $10,000, or if the parents are only going to contribute a portion of the funds then that is established. Also in some cultures there are other parties who contribute to the cost of the wedding. Particularly in the Mexican tradition there are what’s called madrinos and padrinos and each of those are sponsors for different portions of the wedding. So once you establish where this money is coming from and who is going to be paying for what, then you are better set to go out and start choosing your vendors.
 DAMIEN: Now once you’ve established your budget, is there any flexibility to it? Should you be looking for wiggle room in any way?
LOIS: You should be looking for wiggle room; however, you have to decide what are the most important things to you about the wedding. For example, some brides are perfectly satisfied with purchasing a simplistic dress and there are other brides who are looking for a more opulent dress. So, obviously, the more opulent dress may cost more money. So you look at the budget and you feel ok well I’m not as concerned about my flowers, but I really want my dress to be gorgeous. So you can play with the numbers so that you can put money in the areas that are important to you. So it is flexible, but you have to watch it, because a wedding is like any celebration. You will always see something that sparkles a little more. So if you set a budget, you should try and stick around that budget, because there will always be the possibility that something will be added the closer you get to the wedding.
DAMIEN: Now as time has gone by, trends in weddings have come and gone, and we’ll see cycles. What would be the most popular style of wedding?  Is it an indoor or and outdoor wedding and is there a huge difference in the cost incurred in either of these styles?
LOIS: The outdoor wedding, I think is preferred, but it really depends on the region where you live and the time of year that you’re planning the wedding. Outdoors because it is more natural there are some additional costs that may come with trying to do an outdoor wedding, but most brides, you know, I think if they had it in their dreams, it would be outdoors and probably near the water. Although, depending on the time of the year, if it is hot in your region, or if it’s cold in your region, you may opt to have the wedding indoors. And also for convenience sake it is held indoors. Also, in some religions the wedding must be held within a church.
DAMIEN: A lot of brides are anxious to select their dresses and then begin selecting sites for the ceremony and reception?  What’s the proper flow for planning this all out?
LOIS: You would select the site for the ceremony and reception first. The reason being is again like I said some brides may want a simple and some might want a more opulent dress. If the setting is not one that works with either choice, then you have a dress that doesn’t tie in with the overall theme. So if you start looking for your ceremony site and your reception site and then choose the dress that is appropriate for that site it will work a lot better. Also some brides now are…a growing trend is to do a destination wedding. So certainly having the site in mind determines whether you want something that doesn’t have a lot of layers, that is more simplistic, that may have a more airiness to it so that if you are in a breezy location the beauty of the dress flowing will work very nicely. So it’s better to choose your sites before choosing your dress.
 
DAMIEN: Since the location is key, what are some of the costs to consider when thinking of a non-traditional space for the ceremony or reception?
LOIS: Now a non-traditional space I would say is a space where everything is not pre-established. It could be a mansion. It could be a museum. It could be in the park. It could be someplace that your caterer needs to be brought in, that the equipment needs to be brought in. So the costs that add to this, the list could be rather long. For example, if it were a site that were a mansion. The mansion, itself, may or may not come with tables and chairs, or it may not come with the tables and chairs that you like. So there is the cost of rental there. The tables, if provided, don’t come with line so you need to consider linen and china costs. Now some of these costs may be included with the cost of your caterer, but sometimes you may need to rent those items for yourself. There may be additional labor costs. For example, you may only be able to use a facility for perhaps 5 hours for the actual function, and have maybe an hour and a half on both ends for set up and for clean up. Anything over that is additional time. The beauty of the non-traditional space is that you can create the atmosphere that you like, but creating that atmosphere does cost additional money. And even for example a non-traditional space may be to decide to do the wedding at your home. When you are doing the wedding at your home, you also have to think about the possibility of toilet facilities, even if you are considering using yours in your own home, you may need to consider having an extra person on hand to make sure that the facilities are clean all the time. You also may have the additional expense of landscaping, because everyone wants their property to be very pretty. So there are always additional costs that come with a non-traditional space, and a lot of times they come as a surprise, because you are not thinking of them. And that’s a good reason of working with professionals, particularly a wedding planner who is able to sit down and just be able to share with you some of these additional costs as you go about your planning process.
DAMIEN: And somebody that is going to keep an eye on the details that you might have slipped as you were planning the biggest day of your life out.
LOIS: Most definitely.
DAMIEN: Now we know you are a specialist in cultural weddings, what are a few things to consider when blending different cultures together in a wedding?
LOIS: I think blending of cultures is beautiful and it can be because the bride and groom both are of different cultures, or because you are adding this as an additional element to your traditional wedding. You must keep in mind that although both parties are familiar with their backgrounds, the guests may or may not be familiar with either one of them. So the first consideration is to bring in your cultures, but to make it so that it is comfortable for the guests to understand what is going on. Guests may not understand timing of different events. They may not understand what is actually going on in the ceremony. So one of the ways you can do that is to have a wedding program that describes the things that are particular to your culture versus a traditional wedding that may be held with traditional religious aspects or even non-religious aspects. The foods are important to consider. It is a very, very expensive part of the budget. So you want to make sure that the foods that are considered are ones that the guests not only will enjoy, but there will also be things that will be identifiable, because what may happen is during the cocktail hour, you may be passing some hors d’oeuvres that may be familiar to one culture or the other, but the servers need to know what this is so they can describe it to the guests who may not be familiar with this and that it is something that the guests would be more apt to enjoy; otherwise, it’s money that has been spent and unfortunately food that may be wasted.
 
DAMIEN: We have been discussing the timeline and budget for planning your wedding. Any closing thoughts today, Lois, before we leave?
 
LOIS: These are very, very important items. I can’t stress enough that having the wedding budget and having that wedding budget conversation can make all the difference in the world. There will be no surprises later on if you have established in the beginning how much the cost of the wedding is going to be and who are the persons that are going to be able to financially support it. Also, the timeline for all of the items for the wedding are extremely important as well. So, again, it’s good to establish this timeline so that you will know when various costs are going to come about and when different expectations for the planning process are going to happen and this way it makes wedding planning a lot less stressful.
 
DAMIEN: Thank you for joining us today, Lois, and discussing all these points with us.
 
LOIS: My pleasure.
 
DAMIEN: We are please to announce that Master Bridal Consultant, Lois Pearce, is one of our resident experts for weddingdetails.com. Please visit Weddingdetails.com  where you can link into Lois and listen to her common-sense advice. You’ve been listening to Wedding Details Radio.  My name is Damien Allen. Everybody have a great afternoon
 
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